Sometimes it’s hard to get started. Sometimes I didn’t know in which direction to go. If you are like I was, overwhelmed with to much too take care of, too many problems to solve; all solutions seem like dead ends. Questions like: “the car needs attention, but then how do I pay the phone bill? How am I going to work?” took all my attention.
How in the world was I going to work on anything for myself? Goals, career? Anything?
On top of that, the insecurity of “making the right choice,” lack of confidence and the existing demands on my time (caregiving, work ) made the task of moving forward insurmountable.
So I had to frame it in a way I could wrap my brain around it… metaphorically. Maybe it will work for you.
I looked at goal setting like it was an adventure. That helped, imagining myself as pioneer, looking for a place to settle. I’ve got my eye set on a mountain in the distance. That’s my goal. It’s going to take a long time to get there, but every step gets me closer. On the way I go through meadows, valleys. I hit hard winters and lush summers. All the while I have my eye on that mountain. Knowing, that is the goal. Almost there, I walk through this beautiful valley, with an easy flowing river, lots of trout. Fertile ground for a garden and a protected place to build a south facing cabin, it looks ideal. But the mountain is close. I keep going.
Finally I reach my goal. I get to the top of the mountain. The view is incredible. As far as the eye can see, there are rolling hills, trees, rivers. An eagle is flying above. But I can’t stay on that mountain top. There’s no food, no protection. Then I remember the valley I walked through. The ideal place, and I hike back down the mountain, and settle in that valley.
The point is, I never would have seen the valley if I didn’t set my goal to climb the mountain and walk toward it.
It took me 10 years to get here, and I actually feel like I have only reached the base of the mountain. On this journey so far, I raised 4 wonderful monsters, completed my graduate studies in Theology, and was married and divorced a second time. As you can imagine, I definitely hit some cold winter days on that journey. But I also had sunny, “gone fishin’ days. Life happens no matter what direction you head in, so there’s no point in standing still. We KNOW nothing will get better if we don’t change something.
To quote my favorite author, Dr. Seuss, whose birthday is March 2nd. “ And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed) …So… be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea, you’re off to Great Places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting. So… get on your way! “ ( Oh the Places You’ll Go by Dr. Seuss)
Our adventure awaits~ Jacquie